Mom complains to school that her 13-year-old son comments on his well-endowed teacher's body, accuses her of not following the dress code: 'I’m just a curvy girl and I physically cannot hide it'

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Emmy Pratt • Senior Editor
Aug 19, 2024 8:00 PM EDT

I can't imagine how frustrating it must be for a teacher to be constantly bragged with inane complaints from parents. I'm always wary of moms and dads who never assume that their kid might be the one in the wrong or are even just in need of a teachable moment that a teacher can't provide. They always go straight to the top and try to obfuscate blame from themselves or their kid onto educators because they can. 

This story is equal parts absurd and sad. A mom complained to her 8th-grade son's school administration about his teacher. Apparently, he keeps discussing her bosoms, and instead of assuming that he's going through puberty and is noticing these things for the first time, his mom assumes that his teacher must be breaking the dress code. The teacher's administration stands up for her (a little clunkily), but it begs the question of why was this something the school even had to address. 

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    Parent complained to admin about my
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    I am a middle school teacher that is teaching 8th grade this year. I have (for lack of better words) really big so it's hard to conceal them. I always follow dress code and have never been dress coded in the 6 years I've been in education. Everyone always compliments my outfits!
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    My admin told me that a parent came up to the school and said that their son was talking about my at home and they were concerned that I was not following dress code for him to be able to see my My admin straight up told the parent that I always follow the dress code and I am just naturally "blessed".
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    Has this ever happened to anyone? I've NEVER had a parent complain about my body? I'm just a curvy girl and I physically cannot hide it. Edit: Omg, I really didn't think that this many people would see this post. Thank you for all the support in the comments. To address a few things:
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    (1) The "naturally blessed" comment is how the administrator said it to me. She's a woman and that's how she talks. I'm not sure if she said it to the parent like that. I personally didn't mind the comment but I understand why people wouldn't like it. It may be a cultural difference on how we perceive this statement. She was very, very supportive of me and I didn't feel that she was siding with the parent in that whole interaction.
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    (2) I don't know who the kid/parent is because they didn't tell me who it was. I personally think that's for the better, because I'm scared if I figured it out, I would feel weird around the kid. So, it's just better for me to not know and push forward knowing that the admin has my back and that I'm doing everything right!
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    averageduder - 2 days ago A parent is surprised that their 13 year old son is taking about ?
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    moleratical 2 days ago Sounds like it should have been a teachable moment, for the parent.
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    Howboutit85 2 days ago Look son, I know you're a growing boy, and sometimes you may have an attractive teacher; it's okay to look a bit, but don't stare, don't be weird, and keep it to yourself. It's that easy.
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    ccaccus. 23 hr. ago There's an epidemic of treating children as being less capable or mature than they actually are. Gened students showing up in diapers to Kindergarten and first grade or parents claiming their child "isn't ready for" talking about things like the American revolution in fifth grade. I'm sure there are countries with a better middle ground, but I feel like even the most well-behaved American students I've taught are practically babies compared to their Japanese peers that I've t
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    gravitydefiant 2 days ago edited 2 days ago It says a lot that this parent's response to their 13 year old sexualizing their teacher was to run and complain to the principal because [checks notes] you have a body, instead of telling the kid to focus on school and, by the way, we don't talk about women like that.
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    Dragonchick30 - 2 days ago Also the fact that they thought that the only way that their 13 year old boy was talking about their teachers (which btw is very weird to start with that he was so openly talking about this with his parents) is that she's scantily dressed, not because he's a 13 year old boy.
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    manonfetch 2 days ago He's not a 13yr old boy, he's their "perfect pure little angel." He would never do anything so vile as notice a . The woman must be letting woman's them swing in the breeze.
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    Chappedstick 2 days ago I swear parents are more scared of parenting than feeling shame for not parenting!
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    ListReady6457 - 2 days ago There was a tiktok? Or youtube a year or two ago making rounds a year or two ago in conservative circles about a POC woman who was teaching. Her crime? Having a serious . That's it. Even the comments were like, "What do you want her to do leave her at home?"
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    snomisaimassilem . 1 day ago It goes both ways. I'm tiny. Like a 5foot 110lbs skeleton with a tiny bit of muscle. I only have hips... hence skeleton. I've been mistaken for a middle schooler (while I was a middle school teacher but that's a different story) and gotten complaints because my boney collar bone and sternum made parents think I was on drugs. We all think the grass is greener, but in all honesty, we shouldn't have to feel like this either way. Curvy or sharp, we're all in it together.
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    Crunchy_Biscuit 2 days ago edited 1 day ago It's terrible how women are punished for their bodies. Even in many religious circles non curvy women get a pass with some clothes and stuff because it's not "accentuating sexual parts". It's not fair that those with more visible body parts are punished. Edit: I've also been told that women with skinner proportions also get criticized and punished. People can be so mean.
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    theatregirl1987. 2 days ago I've not a parent complain, but I have had issues. When I was in college I was called in to the Ed department office. Apparently my cooperating teacher (just observations, not full student teaching) complained that I wasn't dressed professionally. I 100% was and offered to show them my clothes. I can't help it if my are big. To top it off, I had actually already scheduled a breast reduction! I was so mad. Like, I don't understand what this woman was thinking, nothing
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